Comments on: Shauna

By: Katharine

Katharine — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:00:42 +0000

“”My heart ached—my belly, full of butterflies. It was the worst and the best feeling..”"

Note you noticed immediately something was unhealthy about him, as you said, “WORST and best feeling.”

Someone, before him, taught you not to trust your instinct. Instinct=God

“”I get angry now when I think back at my life then. HOW did I let this happen? WHY didn’t I pack my bags and run as fast as I could in the opposite direction?

The answer is I don’t know.”"

We seek what is familiar, literally, “like family.” Who treated you in a similar fashion as a child, what caregiver? Maybe they didn’t let you cry or spoke abusively to you?
Our radar’s always pick up on people who are like our original care givers.
Once we’ve been victimized, we will attract victimizers. Our energy changes when we’ve done some intense self-work with a therapist.

“”Better be careful what you wish for. That’s what my grandmother always said to me.”"

It is not your fault.

“”Girls can be so stupid.”"

Whose voice is that, telling you you’re stupid, in your head?
It’s not you.
It’s his.
And it’s wrong.
Tell that voice, when it enters your head, “I am not stupid. Stupid people don’t survive.”

“”People loved him. He was popular and well liked, the life of the party—in public. “”
It makes sense you would be attracted to him!

Have faith in yourself and your abilities-

I do.

Love,

Kat

By: Beanie

Beanie — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:40:02 +0000

I am so proud that you wrote this, Shauna.

By: Helena

Helena — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 00:53:34 +0000

I am so happy you left. But please be careful. Sometimes it takes more than a divorce to make someone like him stop. I’m so happy for you, but I am also worried.

By: Lillian

Lillian — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:19:16 +0000

Thank you for having the courage to survive and to share your story.

By: Viki

Viki — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 00:22:26 +0000

Good for you. You sound so strong.

By: Marla

Marla — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:07:13 +0000

Thank you for tell your amazing story. I’m so glad that you escaped the situation and now have a much better life.

By: jinani

jinani — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 19:07:18 +0000

You ARE amazing!
You might regret not leaving sooner, but you DID leave, and you and your daughters are now safe and that’s all that matters.
I’m so glad that you’re in a happier, better place now, and that it only made you into this amazing, strong person.

By: Cate

Cate — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 05:07:55 +0000

I’ve said it since I left him. Hell, i said it before I met him: “As parents, we need to raise kind boys and strong women.” Maybe the next generation will be better. Your story gives me hope, because you showed those kids what was right.
I am proud for you.

By: Fran

Fran — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 20:39:52 +0000

I’m so glad you broke free and are able to share this story of your victory.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:45:34 +0000

“I’m awesome. And I’m strong. And I’m smart. No one would ever tell me differently ever again.” GOOD FOR YOU! These are the things that every survivor needs so much to believe in her heart.

Thank God you do.

Your story has shown someone else that getting out and getting another chance at life is possible. Bless you for sharing.