Comments on: Nora http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/ Violence UnSilenced: Shedding light on domestic violence and sexual abuse/assault by giving survivors a voice. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: In Case You Missed It… | Tufts University Survivors of Sexual Violence http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10917 In Case You Missed It… | Tufts University Survivors of Sexual Violence Mon, 23 Aug 2010 13:27:27 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10917 [...] Violence Unsilenced: Shedding light on the epidemic of domestic violence and sexual assault by giving survivors a voice. Violence UnSilenced features two personal testimonies each week written by survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and sexual abuse. The site was created by Maggie in February 2009 to shed light within the blogging community on abuse by giving survivors a voice. [...] [...] Violence Unsilenced: Shedding light on the epidemic of domestic violence and sexual assault by giving survivors a voice. Violence UnSilenced features two personal testimonies each week written by survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, and sexual abuse. The site was created by Maggie in February 2009 to shed light within the blogging community on abuse by giving survivors a voice. [...]

]]> By: Traci http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10747 Traci Thu, 29 Jul 2010 16:53:26 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10747 You are amazing, strong and brave. Thank you for sharing. I wish you the healing you deserve and full and happy life, you deserve it. Be proud of your accomplishment of getting the school to review the policy, well done!! You are amazing, strong and brave. Thank you for sharing. I wish you the healing you deserve and full and happy life, you deserve it. Be proud of your accomplishment of getting the school to review the policy, well done!!

]]> By: Tri baley Yours http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10603 Tri baley Yours Wed, 14 Jul 2010 01:45:20 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10603 Hi Nora, You've been through so much and yet you are helping others. This is so often the case. I'm presently writing my autobiography which will expose some people who've hurt me emotionally over the years. Verbal abuse, passive aggressive behavior can be torture until like you, I realized I could no longer be obsessed with him and start fixing me. My story will in part be of some benefit to others. One can say, if by writing your story, you will reach only one person, then, one can take faith that our struggle to overcome our obstacles is well placed. Thank-you for sharing. Baley Hi Nora,

You’ve been through so much and yet you are helping others. This is so often the case. I’m presently writing my autobiography which will expose some people who’ve hurt me emotionally over the years.
Verbal abuse, passive aggressive behavior can be torture until like you, I realized I could no longer be obsessed with him and start fixing me.

My story will in part be of some benefit to others. One can say, if by writing your story, you will reach only one person, then, one can take faith that our struggle to overcome our obstacles is well placed.

Thank-you for sharing.

Baley

]]> By: MommyGeekology http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10592 MommyGeekology Tue, 13 Jul 2010 19:26:20 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10592 You're an amazing person for turning such a negative into something that can bring a little good and some change. You’re an amazing person for turning such a negative into something that can bring a little good and some change.

]]> By: Alison http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10546 Alison Fri, 09 Jul 2010 08:28:38 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10546 You have been brave and strong trying to make the best of a confusing and frightening situation from your first encounter with the man who abused you and those qualities will help your healing over time. Leaving an environment that feels unsafe isn't defeat or cowardice, it is wisdom. I too left my original, first-choice, academic scholarship college for non-academic reasons (halfway through sophomore year), found no support in my attempt to return and was very disappointed about what I missed out on such as travel aboard. However, I did eventually attend and graduate from a different university and benefited from the growth of my inner voice and determination that my struggle (sexual abuse, family alcoholism) brought me. You have been brave and strong trying to make the best of a confusing and frightening situation from your first encounter with the man who abused you and those qualities will help your healing over time. Leaving an environment that feels unsafe isn’t defeat or cowardice, it is wisdom. I too left my original, first-choice, academic scholarship college for non-academic reasons (halfway through sophomore year), found no support in my attempt to return and was very disappointed about what I missed out on such as travel aboard. However, I did eventually attend and graduate from a different university and benefited from the growth of my inner voice and determination that my struggle (sexual abuse, family alcoholism) brought me.

]]> By: Aerin http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10510 Aerin Tue, 06 Jul 2010 21:59:06 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10510 I just want you to know that I understand the need to try to make it a "relationship" ... the need to void the bad things that happened. Having a relationship after the abuse doesn't mean that you in any way caused or deserved what happened. It doesn't make it any less traumatic or less hurtful. It was a horrible experience and you are so strong to fight back. Best wishes for a peaceful and calm future... hope you are able to continue your education at some point. I just want you to know that I understand the need to try to make it a “relationship” … the need to void the bad things that happened. Having a relationship after the abuse doesn’t mean that you in any way caused or deserved what happened. It doesn’t make it any less traumatic or less hurtful. It was a horrible experience and you are so strong to fight back. Best wishes for a peaceful and calm future… hope you are able to continue your education at some point.

]]> By: Jessica http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10488 Jessica Mon, 05 Jul 2010 03:36:50 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10488 Thank you for sharing your story. It's horrible to know how the system has betrayed you, but your courage and strength in standing up to it is just priceless. Thank you for sharing that strength and speaking out, even though it is unbelievably hard. You didn't deserve what happened, don't think for one moment that you did. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s horrible to know how the system has betrayed you, but your courage and strength in standing up to it is just priceless. Thank you for sharing that strength and speaking out, even though it is unbelievably hard.
You didn’t deserve what happened, don’t think for one moment that you did.

]]> By: sexgenderbody http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-27330 sexgenderbody Sun, 04 Jul 2010 19:34:47 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-27330 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">Nora : Violence UnSilenced http://ff.im/-nbgsY</span></span> Nora : Violence UnSilenced http://ff.im/-nbgsY

]]> By: Kat http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10484 Kat Sat, 03 Jul 2010 11:08:55 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10484 Hey Nora, Please don't give up on your college-career dreams. Yes, he held you back temporarily but it is up to you weather he holds you back in the future. Don't look for absolute resolution in pressing charges, yes, it may bring temporary peace but eternal peace comes from within, not external factors. You are the child of our Heavenly Father and he says he holds your tears in his hands and cries with you. Invite him into your life and HE will transform you, for what a human cannot do, God can. He doesn't MAKE bad things happen but he ALLOWS it if it can bring good for us in the end. "All things work together for the good of his plan." He loves you so much, Nora, he wants you to seek a relationship with him...he awaits your invitation....hope this helps baby girl, and change that voice in your head that is your X's voice, that says you are stupid...challenge it when you hear it creep back in your head, laugh in your head and say, "Of course I'm not!!" (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) Hey Nora,

Please don’t give up on your college-career dreams. Yes, he held you back temporarily but it is up to you weather he holds you back in the future. Don’t look for absolute resolution in pressing charges, yes, it may bring temporary peace but eternal peace comes from within, not external factors. You are the child of our Heavenly Father and he says he holds your tears in his hands and cries with you. Invite him into your life and HE will transform you, for what a human cannot do, God can. He doesn’t MAKE bad things happen but he ALLOWS it if it can bring good for us in the end. “All things work together for the good of his plan.” He loves you so much, Nora, he wants you to seek a relationship with him…he awaits your invitation….hope this helps baby girl, and change that voice in your head that is your X’s voice, that says you are stupid…challenge it when you hear it creep back in your head, laugh in your head and say, “Of course I’m not!!” (((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

]]> By: Jennifer http://violenceunsilenced.com/nora/#comment-10481 Jennifer Fri, 02 Jul 2010 13:40:19 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1273#comment-10481 You are awesome. I'm so sorry you've been hurt so badly, but thank you for being brave enough to turn it into something positive. You are awesome. I’m so sorry you’ve been hurt so badly, but thank you for being brave enough to turn it into something positive.

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