Comments on: Mary http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/ Violence UnSilenced: Shedding light on domestic violence and sexual abuse/assault by giving survivors a voice. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Ro http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-23761 Ro Tue, 24 May 2011 05:43:04 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-23761 Mama, I am so sorry. I cry too, so many tears, that sometimes seem so useless. I wish I had the words to put how I am feeling here, but I don't. Thank you for being brave, for having a voice here, for putting yourself and this piece of your story out here to share with others. Thank you for everything you did for us, and yourself. Thank you for being the mother you are. I love you. Mama,
I am so sorry. I cry too, so many tears, that sometimes seem so useless. I wish I had the words to put how I am feeling here, but I don’t. Thank you for being brave, for having a voice here, for putting yourself and this piece of your story out here to share with others. Thank you for everything you did for us, and yourself. Thank you for being the mother you are. I love you.

]]> By: libbey http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10952 libbey Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:37:01 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10952 thank you for sharing your story. life is complex. hate can't come without love, we look for compassion and forgiveness for ourselves and others. thank you thank you for sharing your story. life is complex. hate can’t come without love, we look for compassion and forgiveness for ourselves and others. thank you

]]> By: Lillian http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10946 Lillian Thu, 26 Aug 2010 19:16:06 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10946 Thank you for having the courage to share your story and for breaking the cycle. You are amazing. :-) Thank you for having the courage to share your story and for breaking the cycle. You are amazing. :-)

]]> By: Holly http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10846 Holly Mon, 16 Aug 2010 08:35:26 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10846 I stopped the cycle, too. I wasn't aware that he had moved on to my younger sister who was only 3 (She is now VERY MESSED UP!) until he was gone and she was 15. By that time, she was only willing to testify in family court to keep our youngest sister from having unsupervised visitation with him. They had me testify, too. I wanted to go on to criminal court. (WHY in HELL do you have to go through 2 processes??? If there is evidence, book him and throw away the key!) SHE refused and the statute of limitations applied to my case. He is in CA now and I hate to THINK who else has been victimized at his hands... not EVEN a heads up by being on the Sex offender list! UGH! There is RIGHT and WRONG. A child is powerless in these circumstances and they truly are VICTIMS. But they KNOW what it was like to be THAT victim and they KNOW it is WRONG to become that perpetrator. The whole thing is TOO TRUE and even MORE WRONG!! *SNIFF*SNIFF* I stopped the cycle, too. I wasn’t aware that he had moved on to my younger sister who was only 3 (She is now VERY MESSED UP!) until he was gone and she was 15. By that time, she was only willing to testify in family court to keep our youngest sister from having unsupervised visitation with him. They had me testify, too. I wanted to go on to criminal court. (WHY in HELL do you have to go through 2 processes??? If there is evidence, book him and throw away the key!) SHE refused and the statute of limitations applied to my case. He is in CA now and I hate to THINK who else has been victimized at his hands… not EVEN a heads up by being on the Sex offender list! UGH!

There is RIGHT and WRONG. A child is powerless in these circumstances and they truly are VICTIMS. But they KNOW what it was like to be THAT victim and they KNOW it is WRONG to become that perpetrator. The whole thing is TOO TRUE and even MORE WRONG!!

*SNIFF*SNIFF*

]]> By: S.K. http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10841 S.K. Fri, 13 Aug 2010 15:52:14 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10841 It is important to separate yourselves from those who aren't healing; but I know it does hurt. I see it in my husband's eyes, and at least he still has his siblings and cousins. And I know myself the hurt of not being able to fix people with love. You are doing the right thing. God be with you. It is important to separate yourselves from those who aren’t healing; but I know it does hurt. I see it in my husband’s eyes, and at least he still has his siblings and cousins. And I know myself the hurt of not being able to fix people with love. You are doing the right thing. God be with you.

]]> By: Mr Lady http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10837 Mr Lady Thu, 12 Aug 2010 00:42:44 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10837 I do, too. Every day. And I think you're very brave. Thank you for this. I do, too. Every day. And I think you’re very brave. Thank you for this.

]]> By: Aerin http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10832 Aerin Mon, 09 Aug 2010 20:45:42 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10832 Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have cried on occasion for the child my abuser was... the little boy whose first experience with sex was watching his father rape his mother. I have cried many times for that little boy. I have even stopped to wonder what it is that caused such rage in his father... I would assume he was the product of abuse as well. I am not, however, able to find empathy for the men they became. You are much stronger than I at this point, and I wish you well as you continue on your journey of healing. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have cried on occasion for the child my abuser was… the little boy whose first experience with sex was watching his father rape his mother. I have cried many times for that little boy. I have even stopped to wonder what it is that caused such rage in his father… I would assume he was the product of abuse as well. I am not, however, able to find empathy for the men they became. You are much stronger than I at this point, and I wish you well as you continue on your journey of healing.

]]> By: Suz http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10811 Suz Fri, 06 Aug 2010 17:10:52 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10811 Hugs Hugs

]]> By: Sarah http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10801 Sarah Thu, 05 Aug 2010 15:54:09 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10801 Mary, This brought me to me knees. "The cycle reaches back and back and back…and forward and forward and forward," indeed. Thank you for sharing your story here. Thank you for not staying silent, despite your tears. May you continue your constant, hard work, in the knowledge that there are people in the world (complete strangers like me) who support you and pray for you. I wish you only peace. Mary,

This brought me to me knees. “The cycle reaches back and back and back…and forward and forward and forward,” indeed.

Thank you for sharing your story here. Thank you for not staying silent, despite your tears.

May you continue your constant, hard work, in the knowledge that there are people in the world (complete strangers like me) who support you and pray for you. I wish you only peace.

]]> By: MommaKiss http://violenceunsilenced.com/mary/#comment-10797 MommaKiss Thu, 05 Aug 2010 14:54:00 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=1335#comment-10797 I can only say that this is brilliant. I can only say that this is brilliant.

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