Comments on: Lucie http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/ Violence UnSilenced: Shedding light on domestic violence and sexual abuse/assault by giving survivors a voice. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Shelli http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-5697 Shelli Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:22:17 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-5697 My daughter was in an abusive relationship at the age of 16. I could see the signs, but she kept denying it. Then one day, he slapped her right in front of me. I went straight to his parents and we called the police. After 2 hours of waiting for the police, my daughter lost her nerve and refused to press charges. I found out that night that he had been violent with her before. I also found out that she was not the first girl he had been violent with. I emailed every one of his teachers and notified the administration that he was abusive. He was expelled from school not long after for having violent outbursts at school. I am working on a degree in social work. I want to educate kids at the middle and high school level about domestic violence. It's stories like yours that make this kind of education necessary at such a young age. I know I wish I would have known then what I know now! My daughter was in an abusive relationship at the age of 16. I could see the signs, but she kept denying it. Then one day, he slapped her right in front of me. I went straight to his parents and we called the police. After 2 hours of waiting for the police, my daughter lost her nerve and refused to press charges. I found out that night that he had been violent with her before. I also found out that she was not the first girl he had been violent with. I emailed every one of his teachers and notified the administration that he was abusive. He was expelled from school not long after for having violent outbursts at school.

I am working on a degree in social work. I want to educate kids at the middle and high school level about domestic violence. It’s stories like yours that make this kind of education necessary at such a young age. I know I wish I would have known then what I know now!

]]> By: PattiW http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-4270 PattiW Mon, 08 Jun 2009 19:52:08 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-4270 Thank you for sharing your story, Lucie. Blessings, PattiW Thank you for sharing your story, Lucie.
Blessings,
PattiW

]]> By: Coco http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-4031 Coco Tue, 02 Jun 2009 15:19:35 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-4031 I am so very sorry you had to endure that. Sixteen is hard anyway, and being abused on top of that? Just - wow. Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you escaped. I am so very sorry you had to endure that. Sixteen is hard anyway, and being abused on top of that? Just – wow.

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so glad you escaped.

]]> By: Eaton Bennett http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3947 Eaton Bennett Mon, 01 Jun 2009 11:26:32 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3947 I absolutely despise that people chip away at the self esteem of another person, until they can push and pull you at will. I am very sorry that at 16 you got caught up in such painful ugliness. And I hope after telling your story here, you are freer to live and the monster you believe to be inside of you is disarmed by your sharing and each time you share, that part of you is disarmed even more. Eaton I absolutely despise that people chip away at the self esteem of another person, until they can push and pull you at will. I am very sorry that at 16 you got caught up in such painful ugliness. And I hope after telling your story here, you are freer to live and the monster you believe to be inside of you is disarmed by your sharing and each time you share, that part of you is disarmed even more.

Eaton

]]> By: Fran http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3821 Fran Fri, 29 May 2009 12:37:37 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3821 Lucie, You have blessed us by sharing your story. Thank you. It is good to be aware of and sensitive to our histories or we may slide into the traps that may await us. Snares created by our past. It seems your past has made you stronger and your sensitivity will serve you well in your future. Congratulations on your law degree. I read some of your UO posts and posts on Blissfully Blended. You are unconventional and the world is a better place through your advocacy. May your voice ring out! Lucie, You have blessed us by sharing your story. Thank you. It is good to be aware of and sensitive to our histories or we may slide into the traps that may await us. Snares created by our past. It seems your past has made you stronger and your sensitivity will serve you well in your future.

Congratulations on your law degree. I read some of your UO posts and posts on Blissfully Blended. You are unconventional and the world is a better place through your advocacy. May your voice ring out!

]]> By: MG @ MommyGeekology.com http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3783 MG @ MommyGeekology.com Thu, 28 May 2009 18:44:25 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3783 Good for you - you seem to have a wonderful family and career, and that's a win. A triumph. You'll carry that scar for the rest of your life, but you didn't let it completely break you. You told this story. You spoke out. You walked away. You are strong. Good for you – you seem to have a wonderful family and career, and that’s a win. A triumph. You’ll carry that scar for the rest of your life, but you didn’t let it completely break you. You told this story. You spoke out. You walked away. You are strong.

]]> By: Indigo http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3766 Indigo Thu, 28 May 2009 15:52:24 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3766 Life begins to make a little more sense when you expose your scars to the world and say...this happened and it's not my fault. I was the victim but I'm taking my life back. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to come forward and tell your story. As for the ex-bf...I've found cowards resort to violence, they don't respect or really care. In the end it's about control for them. You overcame your pain and the abuse to stand strong and still go on to make a life for yourself. That takes strength...you are more together than you give yourself credit for dear friend. (Hugs)Indigo Life begins to make a little more sense when you expose your scars to the world and say…this happened and it’s not my fault. I was the victim but I’m taking my life back.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to come forward and tell your story. As for the ex-bf…I’ve found cowards resort to violence, they don’t respect or really care. In the end it’s about control for them.

You overcame your pain and the abuse to stand strong and still go on to make a life for yourself. That takes strength…you are more together than you give yourself credit for dear friend. (Hugs)Indigo

]]> By: Joy http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3740 Joy Thu, 28 May 2009 04:40:23 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3740 Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you.

]]> By: Lillian http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3715 Lillian Wed, 27 May 2009 18:58:31 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3715 Thank you for having the courage to share your story. Thank you for having the courage to share your story.

]]> By: danimo21 http://violenceunsilenced.com/lucie/#comment-3696 danimo21 Wed, 27 May 2009 13:54:23 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=449#comment-3696 to echo the sentiments of everyone before me -- thank you for sharing your story, and thank you for continuing to write publicly despite being scarred and at times even terrified. whatever your sixteen-year-old reasons, i'm glad you were able to find the anger and strength to walk away, literally and figuratively. you definitely aren't any less scarred because you were young or because you didn't end up marrying that creep, but you definitely are blessed to have a wonderful family now. i hope the five of you can somehow heal that scar, erase that violence that's been ingrained. you <b><i>deserve</i></b> it. to echo the sentiments of everyone before me — thank you for sharing your story, and thank you for continuing to write publicly despite being scarred and at times even terrified. whatever your sixteen-year-old reasons, i’m glad you were able to find the anger and strength to walk away, literally and figuratively. you definitely aren’t any less scarred because you were young or because you didn’t end up marrying that creep, but you definitely are blessed to have a wonderful family now. i hope the five of you can somehow heal that scar, erase that violence that’s been ingrained. you deserve it.

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