Comments on: KM

By: J.S

J.S — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 18:38:09 +0000

I am so sorry your sisters didn’t react kindly…at all. It makes my heart hurt to think that they just don’t care…I honestly believe they may just not want to feel that hurt and pain. And your reality is too much for them.

You are amazing for sharing your story. I know your words have helped.

By: Pgoodness

Pgoodness — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 02:23:12 +0000

How horrid that your sisters dismissed it. I guess you knew, deep down, all along that they wouldn’t give you the responses you needed and that it was better staying distanced from them. I’m sorry, for all of it. Thank you for sharing.

By: Debs

Debs — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:16:48 +0000

I’m sorry that you to go through all that by yourself. Your sisters may be having that reaction for other reasons(I’m not defending them, just throwing it out) You are very strong and brave to have put your story out there. Hugs to you.

By: Lillian

Lillian — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:42:05 +0000

Thank you for having the courage to survive and to tell your story. What Kori said above, “it makes me really sad that even now you seem to be carrying the burden of your estrangement on your shoulders” is exactly what I’ve been thinking. Not knowing your entire situation, it seems odd to me that your family would simply accept your putting yourself apart and not realize something was wrong or just be willing to let you go, which it seems to me is what they did. I hope you are able to find peace and closure. Much love to you.

By: Becca

Becca — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:40:55 +0000

Many people dismiss these things when they are told, because it makes it easier for them to live in denial. I am sorry you had to go through it again.

Blessings.

By: Emily R

Emily R — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 03:11:44 +0000

your sisters’ reactions were reprehensible. i am sorry.

By: Heather from DE

Heather from DE — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 19:26:04 +0000

Many hugs to you for coming here, being brave and letting it all out there. It is sad that your sisters reacted the way that they did. You don’t just get over something like that. I, too, have never told my mother what happened. And my relationship with my biological father is strained, at best, because of all that happened to me. (He knew) Just know that you are helping others by posting this and hopefully someone will not want to keep quiet any longer about something they are going through.

By: Mojo

Mojo — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 03:47:05 +0000

Bad enough that you had to live through it once, but to have it dismissed with a “Get over it”… It’s being victimized all over again. But no matter what the response from your sisters, and no matter what you may have believed when it was happening I hope you know now that you do matter, and that your pain is just a valid, your story just as valid as any story. It matters to you, and it should matter to those who claim to love you. Including your dad. I don’t want to offer unsolicited advice here, but I think if I were in your position I’d tell him the story. As someone already said, in the worst case you’ll find out he’s just like you thought. In the best case, you’ll find the support you should always have had, and perhaps he’ll find some peace in at least knowing the reasons for all that happened — and didn’t happen — over all those years.

Whatever you decide, I’m glad you brought your story here. I hope it helped you in some way, and I know it’s helped another. Perhaps more than you know, or perhaps you do know. Because for every one who speaks out, there are hundreds with the same story. Hundreds who feel just like you. Hundreds who need to know that they matter.

And whatever you do going forward, I hope you do it with a more peaceful heart.

By: cat

cat — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:42:55 +0000

the results of abuse are so tragic in that they often times hurt those who had nothing to do with the abuse… i am sorry for your loss of time with your mom, for your sister’s misguided advice. keep taking care of you.

By: KM

KM — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:28:12 +0000

Oh my. You have all touched me deeply with your supportive thoughts and good wishes. Thank you – thank you.