Comments on: Heather

By: Attilla the Mum

Attilla the Mum — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:38:26 +0000

Heather, thank you for sharing your story. I have a 6-year-old son and I would be absolutely horrified if he went through something like that. You are so very right that none of it was your fault, and so very brave to let the man you loved know about it. When my abusive first husband got shoved down a flight of stairs by the next wife he abused, I smiled too when I heard about it.

By: Wife and Mommy

Wife and Mommy — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 12:47:43 +0000

I am so, so sorry this happened to you.
Even moreso, I am sorry your father the police officer told you not to tell.
Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Pgoodness

Pgoodness — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 02:20:08 +0000

I’m sorry this happened to you – it was never your fault, and I am sorry no one stood up for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

By: LiteralDan

LiteralDan — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 16:43:57 +0000

Wow, even on a site like this cataloging such experiences, I am blown away by your story. I’m glad it has a happy ending, but man, you are a triumph of good over evil if I’ve ever heard one. Thank you for spreading your story so that others can benefit from it.

I don’t know which is worse, a twisted boy doing this, or grown adults reacting the way they did instead of protecting you. It just makes me sad to imagine. I need to focus on how well you have adjusted and transcended the experience. You are a very special person.

By: Sunny

Sunny — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 17:57:22 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story.

By: Heather from DE

Heather from DE — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:45:50 +0000

Thank you all for your kind words. At times they have been hard to read, but I am thankful to my friends and to friendly strangers that have offered me support and virtual hugs.

I do feel the need to correct myself. While he got hit by a car, he didn’t pass away. He is still alive, very disabled from the accident, but alive none the less. We have no contact with him at all. I would love to say that I have no contact with my father as well, and for the most part I don’t. I just need to get over the guilt that he puts on me because he’s my father and I should spend time with him. I would love to have a normal relationship with him, but I have come to the conclusion that its never possible and through writing this post and listening to everyone’s comments about him, I now know why. To be honest I never blamed him for the abuse-it didn’t click like that in my head. But to re read my story-I see that he could have been my biggest advocate but instead decided to turn his back on me.

Again, words can not express my gratitude for all the support that you guys brought to me this week. Thank you.

By: Debs

Debs — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:11:43 +0000

You are a very strong, brave person. Hugs to you for being able to get this out. I smiled a bit when you said he got hit too.

By: FreedomFirst

FreedomFirst — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:41:50 +0000

What a rotten little demon. And your father, a police officer? Of all people! Not that it makes him any different from most other cops in my experience. If it’s any comfort, try to remember that those people really ARE abnormal – and not everyone who likes your daughters is a pervert. I know it’s hard. I wish you and your family all the best and I hope your asshole of a father feels the guilt of what he allowed for the rest of his life.

By: thordora

thordora — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 20:09:41 +0000

I smiled when my abuser died as well. It helped take some of the hurt to the grave.

You are so strong.

By: Lillian

Lillian — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 19:46:56 +0000

Thank you for having the courage to survive and to share your story.