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By: Violence Unsilenced – They Spoke Out « Sensory Dispensary

Violence Unsilenced – They Spoke Out « Sensory Dispensary — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 14:33:42 +0000

[...] course my very favorite person is my Gina – who shared her own experiences and Spoke Out on VU in October of 2009. I can never really express how proud I am of her for doing that, or how much I [...]

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They Spoke Out! « Sensory Dispensary — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 21:03:51 +0000

[...] They Spoke Out! Gina Spoke Out! [...]

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 22:15:13 +0000

You are absolutely right that you cannot fix an abuser. Thank you for speaking out

By: Arby

Arby — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 03:00:19 +0000

“He didn’t abuse me because I was small and vulnerable — he abused me because he felt small and vulnerable.” An excellent observation! I am very happy for you that you started to take off your mask and show everyone here who you really are, what you have gone through, and where you are going. The feeling of freedom that it provides is amazing. Keep up the good work!

By: ingrid

ingrid — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:42:22 +0000

hugs, hugs, hugs. so proud of you for surviving and for fighting, and so happy that you have arrived where you are today.

(and i particularly liked the line, “I believe he is not an alcoholic but an assholeaholic!” teehee!)

By: Iris

Iris — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 21:31:48 +0000

Gina,

your story is so similar to mine. youre an inspiration, thank you for sharing this. i am so glad you are healing and safe.

By: dianed

dianed — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:12:19 +0000

Your abuse parallels mine. I place very deep inside of me was touched when you wrote, “with every hageful word or gesture, a little of my identity died.” Rebuilding what was destroyed inside of me has been the biggest challenge for me since I left the relationship 15 years ago.

LOVE assholeaholic!!!!!!

God bless you for sharing your story. Know that it WILL help someone.

By: Sunny

Sunny — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:18:41 +0000

Thank you so much for this beautiful piece of writing!

By: Jett

Jett — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 14:44:41 +0000

I wasn’t raised in that manner either. My father never so much as raised his voice at my mother, much less his hand. There was no physical abuse modeled to me whatsoever.

I try to keep careful watch on my children’s burgeoning relationships, as they are both new to dating. I may appear a caricature of myself sometimes in the way I try to lay down the law to (as well as attempt to put the fear of God in) potential suitors, but I don’t care. I want everybody to be aware of what they are doing at all times, and to know that I will stay out of their business, but if they beat on my kid I am coming with a focused vengeance.

I’ve always told my boys that they are to never, ever strike a female, under any circumstance, because that is where I will draw the line and stop ‘being on their side’. The inverse of that is that I tell my daughter, “If you ball up your fist and hit a man, you better stand like a man and expect what is coming.” Violence in domestic situations often seems to run both ways nowadays.

You’re right and have brought up a great point: Kids need to be educated in these matters. Family is for protecting, nurturing and enjoying, not manipulating and torturing; I hope I am conveying this adequately to my people so that they will never, ever find themselves in circumstances that I put and kept myself in.

By: me

me — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:31:23 +0000

Yea you! so happy you kept yourself whole and are now sharing your strength with others!