In seriousness, I have been there. I spent most of my life looking, and finding, unavailable men – emotionally or physically. Thank god for Chebbar.

I, too had some really BAD experiences and I totally decided I wouldn’t truest a man AGAIN! My children and I would be better off WITHOUT one!
Then I met HIM!! He was a widower. We were both avoiding the person someone else had tried to line us up with… We ended up chatting, he talked about his wife that had passed… I was amazed at the love and respect that dripped from his tongue as he spoke of her. A window in my mind opened. Maybe there ARE some good ones left…
The next day he asked me to lunch… not long and he told me he loved me. I broke down and cried. He felt bad that he’d said it too soon. I didn’t cry because he’d said it, but because I felt it, too. But I didn’t feel that I was good enough for him. I also didn’t trust myself in making these types of choices. I’d failed so miserably in the past. I was afraid to open my heart again! I asked him if he would talk to my counselor with me. He told me he’d DO ANYTHING for ME… He WALKED the TALK! Was he for REAL?? Could I trust thinking that he COULD BE??
My counselor helped me see the substance behind the man and break down my insecurities and fears with him. I chose to lower my wall and let him in, thanks to a counselor that helped me not be my own worst enemy.
13 years down the road, he is still a wonderful man. I still have relapses of insecurity and doubt. Somehow, he continues to love me, in spite of me. I think I should have a counselor on tap to keep my mind from getting foggy and regressing into the past.
The past is a part of who we ARE, but we can’t let the past cripple our future. (((HUGS)))