It's Time to Talk Day 2011

This Thursday, December 8, 2011, is the 7th annual It's Time to Talk Day, a day that is, in the words of Violence UnSilenced board member Stacy Morrison, "dedicated to just this one goal: to start and continue conversations about relationship abuse, domestic violence, and emotional abuse, to join together in making an effort to raise awareness and reverse the humbling statistics:

1 in 3 women will be in an abusive relationship in her lifetime. On average, more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States. Teenage girls are reporting dating abuse at rates higher than women, which makes them the most at-risk group for abuse in America. One in five tweens—ages 11 to 14—say their friends are victims of emotional, physical or verbal dating violence."

These are sobering stats, but we here at Violence UnSilenced are ever-reverent of the power of simply talking about abuse, of bringing it up out of the shadows of secrecy and shame and giving voice to what was once unspeakable. We do it all year long.

We encourage you to participate in It's Time to Talk Day. I will be doing so over on on Thursday, as Stacy further outlines below:

Don't be paralyzed by these statistics. Know that the best action any of us can take is to talk about it: with our friends, our sisters, our daughters, our bosses or employees. So please, join BlogHer and Liz Claiborne Inc. and ON DECEMBER 8 to help women everywhere know that this is not their fault, they are not to blame, and that all of us care about them and believe they deserve love that does not hurt.

Here's how to join in to this conversation:

•Commit to writing about relationship abuse on December 8, and share the link to your post in the comments of my post kicking off It's Time To Talk Day here on on December 8.

Have a conversation with a friend, sister, daughter, son or husband about how pervasive relationship abuse is and how it disproportionately affects women. Help them understand that it is not a "choice" of "leaving" or "staying," but a systematic takedown of a person's self-esteem and sense of worth that leaves her believing no one will care. That the perpetrators of abuse need help and attention, too. That no one wants to be in an abusive relationship.

Run a link to the post on that will run December 8, written by Violence Unsilenced's Maggie Ginsberg-Schutz, who launched a site for speaking out and healing, where men and women can anonymously or publicly share their stories of survival.

Simply run a notice on your site that says the following: "LOVE SHOULD NOT HURT. If you are a victim of relationship abuse, know two things: It is not your fault. And there are people who want to help you." And include links and phone numbers to the hotlines, which you can find for your post on Violence Unsilenced or Love Is Not Abuse or the Domestic Violence Hotline or Futures Without Violence or one of many other sites whose sole purpose is to reach out and help when someone needs it most.

Thank you for caring. Thank you for considering taking part in this important day and important conversation. Thank you for daring to take the time to USE YOUR WORDS to help those who need help the most. Here's to women, and our endless reserves of resilience and compassion. Let's shine it out there for all to see on December 8, and help change some lives. Because It Is Time To Talk About It.

We hope you'll join us.