Comments on: BHJ http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/ Violence UnSilenced: Shedding light on domestic violence and sexual abuse/assault by giving survivors a voice. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Danielle http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-24361 Danielle Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:13:08 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-24361 I spent time in my own closet with that small space echoing for years in my dreams. Giant, drive an 18 Wheeler through the holes, gaps of nothing where birthdays and Christmases should be. I understand. And I hope that your echoes, like mine, lead like breadcrumbs to the truth. Or at least peace. I know the truth and I'll add your echoes to my own and share the burden. Be well and thank you for sharing. I spent time in my own closet with that small space echoing for years in my dreams. Giant, drive an 18 Wheeler through the holes, gaps of nothing where birthdays and Christmases should be. I understand. And I hope that your echoes, like mine, lead like breadcrumbs to the truth. Or at least peace.
I know the truth and I’ll add your echoes to my own and share the burden. Be well and thank you for sharing.

]]> By: Me http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-23819 Me Wed, 01 Jun 2011 22:17:58 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-23819 I have many memories like that. I feel like I'm making them up. Thank you for letting me know that I'm not the only one. Thank you for being brave, being honest and sharing. I have many memories like that. I feel like I’m making them up. Thank you for letting me know that I’m not the only one. Thank you for being brave, being honest and sharing.

]]> By: Laura http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-19855 Laura Sat, 15 Jan 2011 02:11:02 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-19855 Thank you for posting this and sharing your memories. Thank you for posting this and sharing your memories.

]]> By: Bee http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-6368 Bee Mon, 07 Sep 2009 09:02:53 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-6368 Yes. Thank you, sir, for your share. To know another has felt this void, this emptiness, is invaluable. Huge blocks are gone, unless someone else colors in the storyline, the long and winding tale that sounds so surreal from others' memory vaults, as I have left it back there, and any good in between got caught in the drain trap too... I hate not sharing the vivid rememberance of my sisters' laughs of joy along with our cries for help. I felt guilt and shame at forgetting what they could not, at moving forward, at my direct, often emotionless approach to friendships and family. We're quite "expressive" now, here in the present, packing every day full of love, life and love of life. Thank you thank you thank you. Yes. Thank you, sir, for your share. To know another has felt this void, this emptiness, is invaluable. Huge blocks are gone, unless someone else colors in the storyline, the long and winding tale that sounds so surreal from others’ memory vaults, as I have left it back there, and any good in between got caught in the drain trap too… I hate not sharing the vivid rememberance of my sisters’ laughs of joy along with our cries for help. I felt guilt and shame at forgetting what they could not, at moving forward, at my direct, often emotionless approach to friendships and family. We’re quite “expressive” now, here in the present, packing every day full of love, life and love of life. Thank you thank you thank you.

]]> By: Anonymous http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-563 Anonymous Mon, 09 Mar 2009 01:02:52 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-563 Thank you for sharing. I don't have memories like this, but I'm afraid my kids will. Thank you for sharing. I don’t have memories like this, but I’m afraid my kids will.

]]> By: Naimhe http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-482 Naimhe Wed, 04 Mar 2009 22:21:55 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-482 yes I do....and I'm sorry you do too. yes I do….and I’m sorry you do too.

]]> By: LiteralDan http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-302 LiteralDan Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:58:12 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-302 That's chilling stuff, because it's so vividly written. I'm glad to say I really do not have such memories, and I wish you could say the same. Glad to know that because you have become master of your life, your kids won't either. That’s chilling stuff, because it’s so vividly written. I’m glad to say I really do not have such memories, and I wish you could say the same. Glad to know that because you have become master of your life, your kids won’t either.

]]> By: Me http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-274 Me Fri, 20 Feb 2009 14:43:16 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-274 I am one of the lucky ones that do not have childhood memories (or lack of) like this. Hopefully this will help another mom or dad realise how much these things can effect their kids and give them the strength to break free. I am glad you are not killed. I am one of the lucky ones that do not have childhood memories (or lack of) like this. Hopefully this will help another mom or dad realise how much these things can effect their kids and give them the strength to break free. I am glad you are not killed.

]]> By: Kimmie http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-269 Kimmie Fri, 20 Feb 2009 14:32:06 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-269 Yes, I do have memories like this. Sometimes they will go away only to come back with such a fierceness that I am literally paralyzed emotionally for long periods of time. Thank You for sharing. Yes, I do have memories like this.

Sometimes they will go away only to come back with such a fierceness that I am literally paralyzed emotionally for long periods of time.

Thank You for sharing.

]]> By: Nicole http://violenceunsilenced.com/bhj/#comment-266 Nicole Fri, 20 Feb 2009 05:44:29 +0000 http://violenceunsilenced.com/?p=125#comment-266 OK. I got my words back. This has been a wrenchingly emotional week for me due to the very memories -- or convenient lack thereof -- that you describe. They're always there, but buried, deep. And when they surface, it's like being struck by a nuclear missile. A big hug to the little boy in the closet who now calls your psyche home. Here's hoping that someday -- if he isn't already -- the little guy can smile. OK. I got my words back. This has been a wrenchingly emotional week for me due to the very memories — or convenient lack thereof — that you describe. They’re always there, but buried, deep. And when they surface, it’s like being struck by a nuclear missile.

A big hug to the little boy in the closet who now calls your psyche home. Here’s hoping that someday — if he isn’t already — the little guy can smile.

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